How to Invent New Sexy Ideas for the Bedroom

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Your relationship is one-of-a-kind; your sex should be, too.

You and your partner know each other’s bodies inside and out: every contour and curve, every turn-on and pleasure point.

You’ve also explored every one of the new sexy ideas you’ve encountered over the years.

Your sex life is great, and you want to keep it fresh and exciting. The key is tapping into inspiration that’s as unique as your relationship.

When dreaming up new ideas to spice up your sex life, a little guided brainstorming goes a long way.

Here are some strategies you can use to generate enticing ideas tailored to you and your partner’s deepest fantasies.

Start With The Obvious: Your Steamiest Memories

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Set some time aside to let your mind wander. Think back to the nights of passion that still make your heart race.

Don’t just remember them; immerse yourself in those memories completely.

Recall every sight, sound, scent, sensation, and flavor that made them so deliciously torrid. Feel your lover’s murmured words of desire against your ear. See the candlelight dancing on their skin. Inhale the faint scent of perfume and pleasure mingled with the sheets.

What positions left you dizzy with euphoria?

What daring games and freshly exlporations pushed you both into new realms of bliss?

Once your sensual memory is activated, channel that passion into dreaming up new twists on your old favorites.

Enhance the heat with massage oils drizzled over bare skin. Reenact your favorite steamy encounter in a brand new setting to recreate the ecstasy. Surprise your partner with an outfit that brings a favorite encounter back to life.

Brainstorm at least twelve new sexy ideas this way. Then, pick one or two fresh fantasies that speak to your deepest desires.

When you’re ready, dim the lights, set the mood, and let the tantalizing anticipation build as you reinvigorate steamy memories to new heights of passion and pleasure.

Push the Limits (Soft limits, that is.)

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You and your partner likely have some hard limits that are completely off the table. That’s valid!

However, this might be a great opportunity to re-examine your soft limits for new sexy ideas.

Soft limits are things you’ve been hesitant to try or haven’t revisited in awhile. Some limits soften over time as trust deepens. Perspectives and relationship dynamics change as time goes on.

Have an open discussion about what would need to happen for each of you to feel safe, comfortable, and turned on enough to explore those soft limits.

Perhaps trying a new position just requires extra pillows for support. Or may exploring roleplay together is more exciting with a few clear boundaries.

Find common ground to dip your toes into soft limits in a secure, supportive, yet sexy way.

Spend Time Alone

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It may seem counterintuitive, but spending intentional time tuning into your individual sexual selves often unveils new mutual interests.

Explore your personal turn-ons through erotic books, videos, toys, or immersing yourself in imaginative fantasy.

Reconnect after your solo sensual discovery and share highlights or new sexy ideas that emerged.

The fresh insight gained from your intimate time alone can open up new directions to explore together.

Consider New Erotic Accessories

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Technology is continuously advancing and creating new possibilities for the bedroom and beyond.

While self-driving cars may not be outfitted for sex (yet), there are plenty of innovative erotic products available.

Here are some suggestions to ignite your creativity:

  • explore the latest sex furniture
  • consider vibrators and other toys for couples
  • look into couple’s apps and games
  • browse online lists of new ideas together to build anticipation

Using technology thoughtfully can enhance intimacy if you maintain open communication.

Escape the Familiar

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Stepping outside your everyday environment shifts your perspective and gets creative juices flowing.

Try booking a night or two away to somewhere you’ve never been. Ideally, choose a location with a sense of erotic adventure. An indulgent hotel room or a secluded space in nature each come with enough privacy to let your guard down.

The tantalizing combination of new surroundings, freedom from routines, quality time together, and the dopamine rush that comes from trying new things organically inspires fresh ideas you can enjoy in the moment…and take back home.

Include Each Other

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At the end of the day, your relationship holds unique keys to sexual fulfillment no list could capture.

With a judgment-free willingness to intertwine erotic playfulness, emotional intimacy, communication, you can continue unlocking each other’s deepest desires for irresitably sexy ideas.

Want a Little Inspiration?

If you’re craving more ideas tailored to boosting your sexual creativity and passion, snag my guide, 100 New Sex Ideas for Experienced Lovers:

100 New Sex Ideas for Experienced Lovers

This ebook is packed with ideas for taking your intimate experiences to thrilling new heights. Grab your copy and start expanding your erotic horizons today.

Shannon Burton, SXI

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Published by Shannon Burton

Erotic Ignition Coach by day, poet and flash fiction author by night, I occasionally manage to get out of the house and enjoy New Orleans as it's meant to be.

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