14+ Best Massage Oils for Couples

Enjoy a sensual couples massage at home with these luxurious oils.


One of the first questions I get in my sensual massage class is: What are the best massage oils for couples looking to do this at home?

My answer? It depends!

Obviously, you want a massage oil that feels good sliding between your hands and bodies. You also want to avoid low-quality, greasy oils that may be bad for your skin.

There are other considerations, too. You may want:

  • Long-lasting Massage Oils
  • Scented Massage Oils
  • Massage Oils for Sensitive Skin
  • Warming Massage Oils
  • Ethically Sourced Massage Oils
  • Sensual Massage Oils

When clients book me for a couples massage class, I note things like the length of their session, sensitivities, and preferences. This helps me choose the right massage oil for them.

Clearly, there’s a lot to consider. But don’t worry—I’ve got you covered.

In this post, I’ll share some of the best massage oils for couples based on your massage preferences and needs.

We’ll start with the best oils for those who aren’t worried about sensitive skin or who aren’t planning to try sensual massage. Then we’ll work our way over to oils that are safer for sensitive skin and areas.

Let’s get to the rub. 😉

Longest-Lasting Couples Massage Oil

Skinsations Massage & Body Oils

Nothing ruins the mood of a couples massage more than stopping to reapply oil every couple of minutes.

To avoid that, you need long-lasting oil that doesn’t leave a greasy feel. Skinsations’ Massage & Body Oils are just the ticket.

Available in vanilla, cinnamon, and lavender, their scented oils are subtle enough to avoid overpowering your senses.

If you prefer, they offer an unscented oil as well.

Not sure what scent to choose? Get their variety pack and try all four.

Best Warming Massage Oil for Couples

Gya Labs Soothing Muscle Massage Oil

Most warming oils are targeted at athletes and people who perform physical labor. I think they’re really missing a huge market in couples massages!

If you’ve never used warming oil before, grab a bottle of Gya Labs’ Soothing Muscle Massage Oil and give it a try. Fair warning: this oil is definitely not safe for use in your most sensitive areas.

With a gentle pepper and eucalyptus scent and easy-pump design, a little of this goes a long way. Try it out and let me know what you think.

Best Scented Massage Oil for Couples Massage

Maple Holistics Massage Oils

If you love smelling great at the end of a massage, I recommend Maple Holistics’ line of scented massage oils.

Their scents include tropical (an almond oil with a hint of mango), berry, and vanilla. With a passion for natural ingredients, it’s no surprise that this is one of the few scented oils known to be friendly to sensitive skin.

Not sure which scent to get? Pick two with one of their massage oil bundles.

Best Massage Oil for Sensitive Skin

Viva Naturals Certified Organic Massage Oil

For those with truly sensitive skin, scented products can feel risky. That’s why Viva Naturals Certified Organic Massage Oil gets a place on this list.

This is a great couples massage oil that rubs in nicely. However, you may need to reapply it more frequently than other oils on this list.

That’s because Viva Naturals is committed to using natural and certified organic ingredients. You won’t find artificial additives here. Their organic massage oil even holds a sustainability certification that makes it Climate Pledge Friendly.

Best Ethically Sourced Massage Oil

Naissance Organic Massage Oils

If you’re looking for a massage oil that makes the smallest impact, check out Naissance’s line of organic massage oils.

Naissance is Soil Association Certified, meaning their ingredients can all be traced back to the farms where they were harvested. This helps ensure an ethical journey from the hands of farmers to yours.

Like Viva Naturals, Naissance is also sustainably certified and Climate Pledge Friendly. Thankfully, their three oils (energize, recover, and revive) are as budget-friendly as they are Earth-friendly.

Best Couples Massage Oils for Sensual Use

If you’re planning something a bit spicier than a Swedish massage, you’re gonna need the right oil for the job.

Check out my other post: Guide to Sensual Massage for Partners.

The good news: all massage oils safe for sensual use are also safe for other uses. The oils below can do it all!

When it comes to erotic massage, there are a few important things to know:

  • All massage oils can damage latex, including condoms.
  • All massage oils carry some risk of causing adverse reactions. You can substitute hypoallergenic silicone lubricant to reduce this risk.
  • Traditional massage oils, especially scented, flavored, warming, or essential oils, are not safe for internal use. This includes the vagina and rectum.

I encourage you to avoid internal use of traditional massage oils. These oils can cause unpleasant reactions and even infections, especially for vulva owners.

Additionally, don’t use any massage oils if you plan to use condoms or other latex materials. I’ll share water- and silicone-based options for this in the next sections.

Wondering what you can safely use for an erotic massage? Here are some options.

Natural Massage Oils for Couples

100% plant-based oils are the ideal erotic massage oil.

These are rarely marketed as massage oils because they’re so widely available. You can probably find them all at your nearest grocery store.

To reduce the chance of an adverse reaction, it’s important to choose a massage oil that has a 100% pure formula. There should only be one listed ingredient on the label.

There’s also a growing trend around olive oil breast massage. It sounds delightful, but you can enjoy it with any of these natural massage oils:

  • 100% avocado oil
  • 100% coconut oil
  • 100% olive oil

Despite what some professionals suggest, adding essential oils to these natural oils makes them dangerous for vaginal use.

To add scent to an erotic massage, light scented candles or incense instead.

If you’re worried about adverse reactions or if you’re planning to use latex (such as condoms), use water-based or silicone lube for your erotic massage.

Silicone Lubricants for Sensual Massage

Silicone-based lubricants have all the benefits of 100% oil—and then some. They are long-lasting, slippery, body-safe, latex-safe, and hypoallergenic.

When used properly, they’re unlikely to cause adverse reactions. One bottle of silicone lube will also last multiple massages.

A few of my favorite brands of silicone-based lubricant are:

  • Ãœberlube (my personal go-to)
  • Wet Platinum
  • Pjur

Apply silicone lubricant to your hands and rub them together to warm it up before applying to your partner’s body. Have fun!

Water-Based Lubricants for Couples Massage

If you’re on a budget, water-based lubricants are a reasonable alternative to silicone-based ones.

However, this comes at a cost.

Water-based lubricants are affordable and latex-safe. However, they aren’t very long-lasting, and many include questionable ingredients when it comes to genital use.

If you use water-based lubricants, be prepared to reapply often throughout your sensual massage. Pre-dispensing plenty of lube into a bowl before the massage should help.

You may be familiar with Astroglide and KY Jelly. Unfortunately, most of their water-based products contain harmful ingredients for vaginal use.

An exception is Astroglide Ultra Gentle. Sliquid is also a great body-safe, water-based lube brand.

Introduce Massage to Your Bedroom

Ready to try sensual massage? Come to one of my virtual classes! I’ll show you everything you need to know while you follow along at home.

Alternatively, book a private class with me in New Orleans. I’m happy to verbally coach you and your partner(s) through a truly unique and thrilling massage experience.

Shannon Burton, SXI

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Published by Shannon Burton

Erotic Ignition Coach by day, poet and flash fiction author by night, I occasionally manage to get out of the house and enjoy New Orleans as it's meant to be.

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