As an ADHD girlie, stress and distraction have often foiled my best-laid plans for work and play.
Getting out of my head and into my body feels impossible some days. It’s probably why I enjoy intentional sensuality, which helps me get more present in the moment.
The benefits sensuality brings to sex are obvious, but these practices calm my anxiousness and improve my focus at work and social events, too.
Sensual practices are essential to my own sexual, relational, and even professional well-being.
My clients find them helpful as well, using them to reduce stress, boost libido, enhance orgasm, and reconnect with their authentic desires in and out of the bedroom.
Here are a few practices you can try on your own.
1. Sensual Self-Touch
Sensual self-touch is a powerful grounding practice that reduces stress.
Set aside 5-20 minutes a day to engage in sensual skincare, self-massage, or extra-long showers with products that feel divine.
Incorporate erotic touch if you’d like. If you do, avoid prioritizing or rushing to orgasm. Try to just be present with your pleasure instead.
Reconnecting with your body through self-touch gives your mind space to rest.
2. Pleasure Noting
This one doesn’t require any time set aside. Simply look for and note sensual pleasure as you move through your day.
Notice the scent of your coffee, the feel of pleasurable textures or temperatures on your skin, the taste of your favorite food, or the sounds of a favorite song.
Looking for and noting pleasure repeatedly brings your awareness to the sensual present, practicing focus and reducing stress.
Take an extra moment when you can to appreciate the pleasures you notice if you want faster, more profound results.
3. Mindful Movement
Stretching, walking, exercising, and dancing release stress in your body and mind.
Starting or ending your day with 5 minutes of stretching can dramatically reduce stress. Bring your attention to the sensations of your stretches to strengthen your focus as well.
If you already stretch daily, amp things up with something more active and fun.
Feel free to eroticize this practice if you want—erotic dance, pole classes, and sexy workout classes can really turn up the dial here.
4. Body Scanning
This practice helps you tune into your body, reduce stress, and release mental distractions.
Body scanning involves focusing on different parts of your body, one at a time, and noticing any sensations.
There are guided body scan meditations you can follow on audio and video apps.
If meditation isn’t your thing, you can also search for guided progressive muscle relaxation exercises for a similar experience and very relaxing effect.
5. Breathwork
Deep breathing can quickly calm your mind and reduce stress.
Try techniques like 4-7-8 breathing (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, exhale for 8 seconds) to bring yourself back to the present moment.
Again, there are recorded guides you can follow along with.
There are also guides out there for orgasmic breathing if you’re looking for slightly sexier breathwork.
Reduce Stress and Feel Sexy
Incorporating one or more of these techniques into your routine can help you stay focused, present, and reduce stress at home, work, and everywhere you go.
Remember, the key is to find what works best for you. Adapt as needed.
If you need a little more structure, check out my free 7-Day Sensual Activation Guide:
7-Day Sensual Activation Guide
Hi! I’m Sex Coach Shannon.
I turn women+ into passionate Sex Goddesses using erotic mindset and sensual activation techniques.
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