A while back I wrote a guide for vagina-owners interested in learning how to experience penetrative orgasm.
The method I describe in that post is still the one I most recommend. It usually takes a couple weeks, but it’s a pleasant journey with a lot of opportunity to learn about yourself and your body.
The journey in this post is not that.
The journey below is quick, dirty, and likely to result in a few failed orgasms.
But…
If you reliably orgasm and don’t mind risking a few to fast-track your penetrative training, read on.
Work it up, put it in
I find this method works best with a vibrating dildo (assuming you’re able to orgasm by pressing a vibrating dildo against your external clit).
If you prefer your hand or a different type of toy on your clit, you can adapt this method using that and having a separate dildo ready to use at the right time.
A note on dildos: if you want to eventually orgasm from penetration by a partner, use a dildo that’s about their size and has similar “give.”
Firm and/or wide and/or longer dildos are wonderful, but training with them can add an extra step when it comes to transferring this new orgasm skill to partnered sex.
This is especially true for very wide or firm dildos that sometimes can prevent orgasmic contractions (and therefore, orgasms) from happening.
In a nutshell, the method is this:
- Work yourself up to an orgasm by stimulating your clit.
- As you approach orgasm, slide the dildo down toward the entrance of your vagina. Imagine you’re “dragging” or “nudging” the orgasm from your clitoris to your vagina.
- Notice how every part of your anatomy here is swollen and activated, and tune into all that sensitivity as you go.
- As soon as you feel your orgasmic potential receding (probably immediately the first time you do this), return to stimulating your clit. Work yourself back up again and repeat.
Over time, you should be able to “drag/nudge” your orgasm to the entrance of your vagina and even into it. Pump the dildo in and out and, voila!
Some easy-orgasmers manage to make this happen in one session of solo play, others take a few tries.
Keep at it and you’ll eventually be able to orgasm from penetration alone, no clitoral play required.
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Hi! I’m Sex Coach Shannon.
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