Follow these 4 steps for a deeper, more sensually inspired connection.
There’s no shortage of advice on how to “keep things fresh” in the bedroom.
We’ve all been there: Scrolling through articles, podcasts, and apps in search of the next new thing to reignite our passion. Sometimes, it feels less like a sexual adventure and more like a job.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Effotless, everlasting passion doesn’t come from external sources.
It’s lying in wait within you.
Explosive sexual excitement is there, right now, just waiting to be unlocked.
Ready to unlock it?
I thought so.
Read on for four steps to:
- activating your sensuality
- tapping into erotic creativity, and
- deepening your relationship intimacy
Get ready for some of the hottest, most connected sex you’ll ever have.
Step 1: Rethink the Search for Excitement
In our hyperconnected world, we’re often bombarded with external sources of sexual influence.
Steamy romance novels and tantalizing Instagram accounts are fun, but these types of sexual stimuli can create unrealistic expectations for our own intimate lives.
The first step toward rediscovering your authentic source of passion is to redirect your focus inward.
Put attention and energy into the genuine personal interests and desires that reside within you. This way, you can cultivate experiences that resonate with your true sensual self.
Your desires and fantasies are uniquely yours, waiting to be acknowledged and explored.
Techniques such as journaling or mindful masturbation can help you peel back the layers, uncovering hidden passions and fantasies you never knew existed.
Spend time on this and you’ll come away with more sensual self-awareness.
Step 2: Find Everyday Inspiration
Erotic creativity isn’t limited to grand gestures or extravagant escapades.
In fact, it thrives in everyday experiences we often overlook.
Practice mindfulness moment-to-moment. By being more present, you’ll notice sensual opportunities in the ordinary.
From the warmth of a morning sunbeam on your skin to the anticipation of a shared meal, everyday occurrences can become the foundation for sensual adventures and deeper connection.
If you struggle with staying present during your daily routine, it can help to set aside time for cultivating more peace and pleasure in your life.
Check out my post How to Reduce Stress and Increase Sex Drive for tips on doing just that.
Step 3: Communicate Your Creative Desires
Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of a healthy sexual relationship.
By understanding your own desires, you gain the confidence to share them with your partner and foster deeper intimacy. This unlocks even more erotically creative doors.
One of my most popular resources for this is the Talking About Sex Activity Book. It’s designed to help individuals explore and communicate their desires without shame or fear.
Another popular tool is Yes-No-Maybe lists. These idea lists are a safe, low-pressure way to indicate your level of interest in certain activities and discover which your partner is also curious about.
I include 5 yes-no-maybe lists in my activity book.
Vulnerability and trust are the keys to unlocking your shared passion. Be brave, and you’ll soon discover the endless horizon of your erotic passion.
Step 4: Embrace Relationship Evolution
Rediscovering your sensual self doesn’t just ignite your individual passion. It also breathes new life into your relationship.
People who embark on erotically creative journeys often find themselves exploring uncharted territory together. This strengthens their bond and creates unforgettable shared experiences.
Think back to a very memorable sexual encounter. What made it so memorable?
Chances are the encounter was unique in some way. Perhaps it was:
- your first time trying something
- the first time you engaged sexually with a certain partner
- in a unique place, like while on vacation
Whatever the case, the novelty made the experience special.
You can foster novelty with the simple act of embracing changes in yourself, your partner, and your sexual relationship over the course of time.
Adapting together is growing together. It’s all a part of the erotic journey.
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Meet erotic creativity expert: Shannon Burton, SXI
Hi there! I’m Sex Coach Shannon. I offer private coaching and classes both virtually and in my New Orleans studio.
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